I want to be healthy: mentally & Emotionally

In addition to a valuable Christ-centered counselor, these "Life Tools" below have helped me profoundly on my healing journey through life. If you have a tool or resource that has helped you, please share that with us in an email! 

1. Life Tool #1- Internal Family Systems for emotional and mental healing

In the intricate tapestry of motherhood, the interplay between mental and emotional well-being assumes paramount importance. It is a journey riddled with complexities, where understanding the profound correlation between emotional health and mental stability becomes pivotal. Delving into this connection unveils Inner Family Systems (IFS) therapy as an illuminating pathway, offering profound insights into healing burdened parts and nurturing emotional resilience amidst the challenges of motherhood.

IFS delves into the intricacies of our internal landscape, acknowledging the presence of various parts that carry the weight of past traumas, whether significant or subtle. These burdened parts manifest through protective mechanisms, commonly referred to as "protectors," which aim to shield us from re-encountering the pain of those traumas. Within this framework, two primary types of protectors emerge: reactive "firefighters" and proactive "managers," each employing distinct strategies to manage emotional distress.

However, these protective roles often lead to maladaptive behaviors, perpetuating cycles of emotional turmoil and hindering personal growth. Through the lens of IFS, individuals embark on a journey of profound introspection, extending compassion, curiosity, and connectedness to their burdened parts. Central to this approach is the absence of shame; every part is acknowledged as acting in alignment with the true self's best interests.

At the core of IFS lies the transformative process of unburdening these exiled parts, thereby freeing the protectors to adopt healthier roles aligned with the individual's core essence. This entails extending profound love and fostering the "C" words—compassion, clarity, courage, and more—to the wounded aspects of the self. In doing so, individuals open themselves to the guiding wisdom of their inner essence, facilitating a journey towards healing and wholeness.

Indeed, the journey of healing is profound, encompassing an acknowledgment of the wounds incurred from navigating a fallen world tainted by sin and trauma. Each individual bears the imprint of their experiences, from the moment of birth onward. Yet, through the principles of IFS, individuals can begin the process of unraveling these burdens, finding liberation from the weight of their past.

Central to this process is the recognition that those who inflicted harm upon us were also operating from their own places of woundedness. While this understanding does not absolve them of responsibility, it fosters a sense of compassion and facilitates the journey of forgiveness and inner peace. Through prayer, introspection, and alignment with the guiding presence of the Holy Spirit, individuals engage in the profound work of inner parenting, nurturing their exiled parts towards healing and reconciliation.

However, it is imperative to acknowledge that certain mental health conditions may necessitate professional intervention. Just as individuals seek medical assistance for physical ailments, recognizing the validity of mental health illnesses and the necessity of professional support remains crucial. While IFS serves as a potent tool for fostering emotional resilience, it is essential to seek professional guidance when confronted with complex mental health challenges.

In the courageous journey of motherhood, embracing the principles of IFS can lead to profound transformations, fostering emotional resilience and mental clarity. By unburdening our exiled parts and embracing the power of inner healing, individuals can make healthier life choices and experience a more abundant existence. Let us embark on this journey with courage and compassion, knowing that healing is within reach for every brave mama.

2. Life Tool #2- Clifton Strengths Assessment Test for a deeper understanding of yourself

Understanding and leveraging your CliftonStrengths can have a profound impact on your emotional and mental well-being. The CliftonStrengths 34 report provides comprehensive insights into your unique talents and strengths, answering the fundamental question of what sets you apart and gives you an edge. By delving into the contents of this report, individuals gain a deeper understanding of their innate abilities and how to harness them for success.

This report ranks all 34 themes in order of their frequency and intensity, offering clarity on your greatest strengths and areas of potential. Armed with this knowledge, individuals can align their actions with their top strengths, leading to a sense of fulfillment and vitality. Instead of feeling drained by tasks that fall within their bottom strengths, individuals can focus their energy on activities that resonate with their core talents, resulting in a more positive and enriching life experience. The personalized insights and practical guidance provided in the CliftonStrengths 34 report empower individuals to navigate their strengths, set goals, and overcome potential blind spots, ultimately enhancing their emotional and mental well-being.

3. Life Tool #3- Retrouvaille: a Lifeline for Marriages 

Retrouvaille isn't just a program; it's a beacon of hope for couples navigating the stormy seas of marital distress. It's for those who are feeling lost, on the verge of giving up, or already adrift in the choppy waters of separation or divorce. But amidst the darkness, Retrouvaille offers a glimmer of light, a chance to rediscover the love and connection that once bound you together.

Imagine a weekend where you and your partner can escape the noise of everyday life, surrounded by others who understand the pain and struggle you're facing. Led by compassionate guides who've weathered their own marital storms, you'll embark on a journey of rediscovery, uncovering the tools to mend broken communication, heal old wounds, and rebuild trust.

But it doesn't end there. In the weeks that follow, you'll continue to nurture the seeds of renewal planted during the weekend retreat. Through intimate group sessions led by couples who've walked the same path, you'll delve deeper into the complexities of your relationship, forging bonds with others who share your journey.

And as you navigate the highs and lows of marriage, the monthly support meetings provide a lifeline—a sanctuary where you can find solace, strength, and encouragement from fellow travelers on the road to healing.

Retrouvaille isn't just about saving marriages; it's about reclaiming love, reigniting passion, and rediscovering the joy that comes from a deeply connected partnership. So if you're feeling lost, if you're teetering on the brink of despair, know that there is hope. 

If you feel like this Life Tool is something youd be interested in, please send us an email and we will connect you with someone who can help. You can also click the link below for more Retrouvaille information. 

4. Life Tool #4- Celebrate Recovery: 12 step program for recovery from trauma and addiction

Celebrate Recovery is a faith-based, 12-Step recovery program designed to assist individuals grappling with addiction, hurt, or pain while reconnecting with God. Established in 1991 by John Baker and Rick Warren, it originated in a church in Saddlebrook, California, with the aim of providing a Christian-focused approach to addiction recovery. Since then, the program has expanded globally, with over 35,000 churches participating worldwide.

Key components of Celebrate Recovery include Step Studies, The Journey Begins, and The Journey Continues, which facilitate healing through Christian principles and support. Participants engage in meetings, share experiences, and explore the program's 12-Step framework, paired with Bible verses, and the Eight Beatitudes. Unlike traditional recovery groups, Celebrate Recovery encompasses a wide range of issues, emphasizing personal responsibility and a commitment to spiritual growth in Jesus Christ. The program fosters a sense of community and often leads members to become lay ministers following their own recovery journeys. Celebrate Recovery stands out for its holistic, future-oriented approach and its dedication to helping individuals overcome addiction and find lasting spiritual and emotional healing.

In addition to the above tools, have also added several other extremely helpful tools for your journey: youtube channels with amazing bible teachers, worship music link, the Bible Project (amazing resources on this website), and other things that have inspired and helped me on my journey. 

I would love to hear about your amazing brave story, and any therapeutic aids you have found! Click the buttons below for direct links to these specific life tools! 

Stay brave, stave beautiful, and stay blessed. Sending all our love.